No doubt you are familiar with the saying, ‘actions speak louder than words”.  But is that really true?

Based on both personal and professional experience, we would suggest that indeed it is!   But the question is this…are you aware of the language you are speaking?

There are many forms of communication that go beyond the written or spoken word.  They include body language, tonality, pitch, hand and body gestures, facial expressions and voice inflection or emphasis.

For example – in a recent 60-second TV commercial – the advertiser flashes from one man to the next, and all any of the guys ever said is the word “Dude”.  Depending on the way they said it…moved their heads…rolled their eyes…or emphasized the word…you not only could tell exactly what they were saying, you knew whether they meant  the message to be a statement or a question…funny or sad…complimentary or derogatory.  In just one minute,  that one word – “Dude” – became a language all it’s own!

And so it is in life! 

How many times have you said something, only to have the other person react by saying, “I can’t believe you just said that!” 

Taken back, your response is…” What???  What did I say?”

After going back and forth,  you realize it is not what you said, but how you said it that turned out to be the problem.

So the questions is this:

What language are you speaking?  Is there a way to know?  Is there a means of learning to understand the language of others and adapt in ways that will allow you to improve communication and understanding? 

The answer is yes!!!

And there are many tools that can help  – but one of our favorites is the DISC personality and behavioral style analysis.

This simple, yet highly insightful, profiling instrument is easy and quick…but provides amazing details about your natural behavioral language – as well as the language you will revert to when under pressure.   

It shows you ways to recognize the language of those around you…learn how to adapt and respond in ways that can make a huge difference in the quality of your communication  in all your personal and professional relationships.

DISC is one of the 25 questionnaires, profiles and inventories contained in our workbook, Identity and Destiny – 7 Steps to a Purpose-filled Life.  Here’s a brief excerpt:

DISC is based on the pioneering work of Harvard psychologist William Moulton Marston. In his 1928 book on the subject, he describes four classic quadrants of human behavior:

     D = Dominant, Driver                                               

     I = Influencing, Inspiring

     S = Steady, Stable

     C = Correct, Compliant

The DISC is often referred to as the “language of behavior.” Knowing your strongest behavior quadrant will help you know your language and understand yourself better. As it relates to purpose, it will help you recognize the roles you are best suited to fill and those that simply aren’t a good “fit”.      It is not that you are incapable of doing certain things or exhibiting all four characteristics of DISC. Odds are, you can do anything you put your mind to. But, the critical questions you will answer here are:

  • How am I naturally wired to behave?
  • What’s my behavioral comfort zone?

You will learn the basic motivation that drives your behavior–your best situations and environments–your best way of communicating, interacting with others and making decisions.

An important thought to bear in mind as you explore the various types of personalities: It takes ALL the styles to make good families, marriages, teams, churches, small groups and organizations. The greatest value of knowing your personality style–and that of others–is to recognize, understand and appreciate the differences!

For as we have many members in one body,

but all the members do not have the same function,

so we, being many, are one body in Christ,

and individually members of one another.

Romans 12: 4-5


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