Are you tired, overwhelmed and weary from the “battles” of life?
Do you find yourself wondering…”when is life gonna give me a break”?Jesus said in John 16:33, “In this world you will have tribulation…”
So…the question is not “if” you will have trouble…but “when”?
Unfortunately, it is a part of the human condition that cannot be avoided.Whether it is your finances, job, health or relationships – the struggles just keep coming.
But the real question is how do you deal with them and how do you respond? Do you give up…try the same old things with no better result…lash out under pressure…or cower in fear?
Or have you learned a better…healthier way to cope?
If you have…odds are you’ve learned how to be resilient!
Resilience is your ability to bounce back in the face of adversity and overcome the obstacles and struggles of everyday life. It is part of what is also referred to as your Emotional Intelligence because it measures your aptitude for social and emotional interactions and the kind of “life skills” that are critical for success in both career and relationships.
When compared to the more well-known Intelligence Quotient (IQ), there are two key differences between resilience and intelligence.
- First, more than 50 years of scientific research indicate that resilience may be more important for achieving success at work and satisfaction in life than IQ.
- Secondly – and perhaps even more importantly – you can change your EQ by changing your beliefs and the way you think.
Recent studies have broken resilience in seven distinct categories:
- Emotion Regulation – staying calm under pressure
- Impulse Control – delaying gratification of desires
- Empathy – read and respond to the emotional cues of others
- Optimism – seeing the future as relatively bright
- Causal Analysis – understand behavioral cause and effect
- Self-efficacy – faith in your ability to succeed
- Reaching Out – comfortable with reasonable risk taking
Each category relates to an area of specific skills needed to cope effectively in life. Understanding and working to improve your resilience is critical for dealing with the unpredictable – and sometimes tragic–world we live in.
The good news is that resilience is under your control. It can be evaluated, learned and modified. That means it can get better…and it can be improved!!!
The authors of the book The Resilience Factor, Karen Reivich, Ph.D. and Andrew Shette, Ph.D. say:
“These skills are a means to achieve diverse ends – overcome childhood obstacles steer through new adversities, bounce back from major setbacks and reach out to broaden your world. In other words, they promote resilience, leading people to solve their own problems, take appropriate risks and accurately forecast the implications of an adversity. These skills also provide a remarkable opportunity for people to look inward, to get to know themselves – really know themselves – and connect more deeply.”
The first step is self-awareness!
Then, once you know how you’re doing in each of the 7 areas of resilience, you can begin to take steps to make positive changes in your life!
Are you ready to do something different?..
Are you ready to learn how to bounce back with power, strength and momentum?.
We can help!!!
Resilience is one of the skills we teach in our workbook, “Identity and Destiny – 7 Steps to a Purpose-filled Life“.
And remember…life absolutely can be better. You can improve your ability to cope with the “body slams of life” . So…now it’s up to you. Dare to take the first step and begin changing your life for the better…forever. Check it out at www.identityanddestiny.com