Today, Tawnya and Scott have been involved in helping marriages thrive for a decade. Along the way, they have learned many best practices for communication, conflict resolution, and maintaining a healthy connection. Because of this, they built a strong foundation for a really great marriage. However, after twenty years of doing life together, they realized they were missing something. A lot can shift over that amount of time. They’d brought three babies into their family, built and lost businesses, bought and sold homes, experienced financial gain and loss, traveled to other parts of the world, and learned everything they could about being a Biblical Entrepreneur.
What were they missing? They couldn’t put their finger on what it was. Scott described it as, “I just knew we weren’t fulfilled in the relationship. It felt weird because we knew we loved each other deeply, but there was a lack of passion.” Scott and Tawnya realized they had a functional marriage. “We made very good ‘business partners’,” said Tawnya, “with the ability to plan and do family-life together.” However being the high performers they are, they weren’t satisfied with “good enough.”
Tawnya and Scott made a conscious decision to do whatever it took to understand what they were “missing.” Scott declared, “There is nothing on this planet more valuable than our relationship, and we’ll go the extra mile to bring fulfillment back to each other.” Sometimes with great anguish, they sought guidance from the Lord. In their endeavor, they invested a lot of money, time, and resources, including counseling from their teacher and mentor, Patrice Tsague. Ultimately, “We knew there was nothing more important we could do for our kids than to shore up our marriage,” says Tawnya, and they would go broke if that’s what it took. This was a two year, agonizing journey for them.
By the grace of God, they finally found the keys that unlocked their mental, emotional, and spiritual blocks while on a destination retreat. They re-discovered passion, connection, and absolute fulfillment in marriage. What they weren’t expecting, however, was God giving them a bigger vision than just their relationship. As you may well have noticed, the next generation believes marriage is no longer the best “lifestyle choice.” The vision is to restore the appeal of marriage in our culture within two generations. In order to fulfill this vision, our generation has to stop settling for “just okay” marriages. We have to stop accepting a 50% divorce rate. We must stop being complacent. We can no longer take for granted, the one person on this planet who promises to spend their whole life with us.